Betty Ferguson Steck

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Betty Ferguson Steck, beloved wife, mother, sister- and mother-in-law, grandmother, aunt and friend to many; passed peacefully into eternity, Sunday, January 31 2021. She was 91 at her passing and Heaven graciously granted her two wishes that she always had for her final days. The first was that she be able to remain living in her home and the second was to keep her real teeth. She had a gentle and blessed transition. She spent 11 days in treatment for Covid at St. Mary’s Hospital, where the staff could not have been more kind and attentive. Thanks to smart phones and group chats and with one family member at a time allowed to be by her side, Betty asked for and received updates from grandchildren and great-grandchildren. These gladdened her heart and gave us the chance to say goodbyes and express our love. She blessed us by her presence, even in her final days on Earth.

Betty Jo was born on November 9, 1929. She was the fourth of five children born to George Francis Ferguson and Ella Huebler Ferguson who lived on a farm in Callaway County. Many of her stories from her childhood had to do with the creek getting up…like the time she insisted on going to school. The rain continued and the creek rose and her dad went by mule to pick her up. On the way home, there was an instant when the schoolgirl, her dad and the mule were without firm footing in the swollen waters and she knew that her father was afraid. When they got home, Francis told his daughter, “The next time I tell you no school, you will not be going to school.” Then there were the fondly recalled high creek times when she and her sister Patty would have stay overs at their neighbors, the Smarts. There were no phones to call home: her parents would know where they were. Her birth year was of course the same year as the stock market crash and with the ensuing Depression, these times influenced her throughout her life to be respectful of resources.

Betty was proud of her Mid-Missouri heritage. The Fergusons clan had come from Virginia to settle in Callaway County among the earliest of the settlers. Her mother’s people were descended from German immigrants whose work ethic she often lauded.

Betty met Albert Steck and they married August 19, 1950 when she was 20 years old. She always expressed that she felt blessed to have married a good man. She admired many qualities of the extended Steck family including the ability to be open and honest with each other about difficult topics and still remain friends.

Betty and Albert had 10 children: Steve, Elaine, Greg, Susan, Amy, Lawrence, Juli, Charles, Mary Ella and Janine. When Albert died in 1977, Betty took on the job of putting the six youngest through college. In a time when men dominated the work world, she took over the real estate business that she and her husband had begun. She was gutsy and a business success in her own right.

No treatise on her life would be complete without mentioning that Betty spent more than five decades as a landlady in St. Martins. Dealing with the public in the form of renters was an education and a life’s commitment. She always said that most people were good and fair.

Hard work was always a joyful part of Betty’s life: she enjoyed growing flowers and food; she canned countless quarts of green beans and tomatoes from the garden and made fruit pies galore with cherries and peaches from the orchard. She believed a healthy diet contributed to her long and active life. She believed in flossing her teeth.

Even though the household was always full, Betty always made room for one more at the table or in her home. She hosted some ten young people from various parts of the world and in turn was welcomed by many of them in their country.

Betty grew up in a household with good parents who did not belong to an organized church. After marrying Albert, she converted to Catholicism and always felt grateful for the support offered by her church family. In fact, she thought her St Martin community was the best the world over. She greatly enjoyed parish events such as the annual picnic and found it uniquely satisfying to work side by side with other parish members

Betty was blessed with 15 grandchildren and 18 great grandchildren. We all concur that all of us are blessed beyond measure for her steadfast love and the values of hard work, faith, and family that she imparted to our lives.

The Mass of Christian Burial will be held at 10:00 a.m., Thursday, February 4, 2021 at St. Martin Catholic Church, 7148 St. Martin’s Blvd., Jefferson City. It will also be live streamed at https://www.facebook.com/stmartinparishjc/ . Father Jason Doke will officiate. Burial will take place in St. Martin Catholic Cemetery. A meal will follow at the Fr. Ed Schmidt Center. Visitation will be Wednesday, from 4:00 p.m. until 7:00 p.m. at the church and again on Thursday from 9:00 a.m. until the time of services. The public is invited to attend while following social distancing guidelines. Facial coverings are requested while in attendance.

Memorials may be directed to St. Martin Catholic School.

Dulle-Trimble Funeral Home is in charge of arrangements.

 

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  1. So sorry to hear this! What a beautiful lady inside and out! So enjoyed her in our chair yoga class not so long ago it seems! Thoughts and prayer to Mary Ella and the rest of your family!

  2. Betty, Al and the Steck family were the first to kindly welcome us to St. Martin’s. There were so many times they can to help, guide and encourage my folks. There were lots of shared laughs, a few tears, dinners, swimming, and tons of games. I’m glad to have the memories. Betty will be missed. My best to all the family. Rose Beck

  3. Dear Steck family it is hard for me to express all the ways your mom has impacted my life. I am a transplant to Jefferson City in that I was not raised here however, I have now been here for 38 years almost 39 and the St. Martin’s community became my parish. I actually first met Betty when my son Michael became close friends to Ricky (my forever endeared name for him). She was always closely involved in his activities and we often visited during those and at Church. One very fond memory I have is when the boys played baseball and here came Betty all dressed to actually physically practice with them. She always had spunk. Over the years I have also met and became very fond of her children that attend St. Martin’s . She will be missed. She has been a trooper in this world and lived her faith. I truly believe she is now with the angels and we will meet again. Prayers and blessings to the entire family. Jim sends his best as well. Debbie

  4. Betty had such courage and strength. She never failed to greet us by name. I last talked with her a few Tuesday’s ago, going into 5:30 Mass. As always, when I asked her how she was doing, she replied “just fine”. We will miss her.

  5. We met Betty when we bought land from her to build a home on. To discuss the specifics, she scheduled our first meeting at Zesto and treated us to ice cream cones. A few weeks later, we finalized the deal in the same way. I remember thinking that anyone who does business over ice cream cones must be someone pretty special. Condolences to the Steck family and the St. Martins community.

  6. My heart goes out to all of your family. I’ve know Betty for all my life and most of her family. She was all great to me and my family in return.

  7. So very sorry to hear of Betty’s passing. I admired Betty’s determination and commitment to our Parish. She was a true example of a good and faithful Catholic. All of the Steck family are in our thoughts and prayers. Ruth & Gerry Stegeman

  8. Greg, Chuck and boys, Sorry to hear about your mom and grandma. You are in our thoughts and prayers. Ed and Lisa Bondurant

  9. I am sorry to hear of Betty’s death. I met her over 40 years ago at a Catholic divorced and widowed support group. I lived on her land a short while and would see her working very hard almost daily. More recently I would see Betty at various grocery stores throughout the city. She was loved by many. personmany.

  10. Sue, Mary, Janine and so, so many other Stecks I never had the pleasure of meeting – I am so sorry for the loss of your mother. The obituary gives such a joyful look at who she was and the extensive number of people whose lives she touched and brightened. Her humility, simplicity, hard work ethic, love of God, family, nature, and humanity, and her sense of humor certainly live on in you and I’m sure are being passed down to the grandchildren and great grandchildren. I love that one of her two wishes for her final days was to have her real teeth. 🙂 I know I never met her, but I really do see her in you guys <3 What a phenomenal woman.

  11. Sorry to hear of your Mothers passing. Betty was a gracious and caring person. Whenever we met no matter how many years in between, she was always interested in what was going on in our lives and never forgot who we were. Please accept our condolences. Pat and Dewayne Bonine

  12. I met Al and Betty Steck when I was in grade school at Marion. Al needed my father’s help with an issue which led to several visits in our home and the Steck home. I remember my mother commenting on what an immaculate house Betty kept and how polite her little children were. My mother grew up in a family with 13 children so she knew how much work it took to provide such a good home! Later as a young mother myself with a part-time product business, Betty so graciously hosted a product party inviting friends and neighbors. Her family had grown but everything else remained the same – neat & orderly, welcoming and a very loving home. My parents held Al and Betty in very high esteem. Just a few years ago Betty and I crossed paths again when she served on the Cole County Historical Society board. She was a strong, hardworking, Christian woman that all of her family can be proud of. Whoever wrote her obituary for the Dulle website described her life breautifully. Another saint has gained her angel wings. God bless all of you as you remember her and mourn her passing.

  13. I always enjoyed her visits to Barry’s office for her taxes. She would always share a special memory of her earlier life as well as my Dad’s. Such a sweet lady!! I will certainly miss her this year and the years to come.

  14. Betty was a strong woman with a good sense of humor, we had many good times together, could not have had a better mother in law.


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